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5 Things I Remind Myself when Dealing with Parental Burnout


February 21, 2019 Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Google+ Raising a Parent


5 things I remind myself when dealing with parental burnout | Baby & Beyond

Parental burnout – the struggle is real! The fatigue that comes with parenthood is a real daily struggle for many of us. As much as I love my son, as much as I love being his mother and count my blessings for every single day with him, there is no denying the fact that there are days when I feel like giving up. When parental burnout strikes, I go through emotions ranging from exhaustion, frustration, anger, self-pity, mom guilt and hopelessness.

At those times, I make it a point to remind myself of 5 important things that make is possible for me to overcome to rough phase and move forward:

5 things I remind myself when dealing with parental burnout | Baby & Beyond
5 things I remind myself when dealing with parental burnout | Baby & Beyond

It is OK to not be Supermom:

As a new mom, I was quite sure of the kind of supermom I was going to be – cloth diapers, no bottle, no-screen-time, no processed foods..the list went on and on. Of course reality hit hard and I realized I was only driving myself to the ground with such rigidities. It really doesn’t make me a bad mother if my son wears a disposable diaper once in a way because I’m exhausted with all the laundry, or if he watches videos for a bit so that we can my husband and I can have a peaceful meal together, or if he eats store bought cookies. Trying to fit into some ideal vision of a Supermom and then failing, being too hard on myself, feeling frustrated and tired and then taking it out on my kid…that is what would make me a bad mother.

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It is OK to not be present all the time:

This is even more important to keep reminding myself ever since I started a full time job. When I was working part-time earlier, I would make it a point to drop N to school and pick him up myself every day. We always ate meals together and I was always present for him. These days I am not around for him as much but I have to remind myself that there are reasons for me to have made these choices and in the end its ok. Sure I miss our time together, but in the long run it probably won’t make much difference if I did not attend every school function or if I was home late one day and missed his dinner.

It is OK to ask for help:

It takes a village to raise a child and no one expects us to do it alone. I am blessed to have my village in my family, school, daycare, house help and I fall back on them whenever things seem to be going out of my control. That is the only way I am able to get everything done while still maintaining some semblance of sanity.

It is ok to be more than a mom:

One of the biggest reasons for parental burnout is being overwhelmed by being just a parent all the time and missing out on all other aspects of myself as a person. It makes me feel frustrated and resentful towards my child for no fault of his own. I occasionally have to remind myself that before I became a mom, I was also a daughter, daughter-in-law, wife, sister, friend, professional. It is ok to stop being a mom for some time and be just a wife, spend some quality time with my husband that doesn’t involve talking about our child, or catch up with my family and friends, or focus on my work. And after that I can go back to being a mom feeling refreshed and not so frustrated anymore. Indeed it makes me a better mother. Distance makes the heart grow fonder after all.

It is OK to take a break:

But first of all, before being anyone else, I am me. And it’s ok for me to take time out from everyone else and just take care of myself. We give so much of ourselves to our family, home and work, but if we don’t give ourselves what we need, then stress, anxiety, exhaustion and weakness can end up taking a toll on our health. And I am sure you have heard the saying, “You cannot pour from an empty cup.” So every once in a while, it is ok to take off for some me-time, Unwind with a book, slog it out at the gym, get a spa treatment or just take a nap. There’s nothing wrong with some self-care right!

Have you ever been faced with parental burnout? How do you deal with it? Let me know in the comments below.





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  1. Aesha Shah said on February 22, 2019 1:28 pm:

    A woman wears many hats. One main reason for the burnout. Also, most women are perfectionists thus we pressurize ourselves unnecessarily. But thanks to our tribe where we read about each other and relate to each other, it makes everything easy. We stop feeling guilty as well. Blogging has really made parenting easy for me.

    1. Baby & Beyond said on February 22, 2019 1:39 pm:

      Agree…I feel like I should be giving 100% to every role I play but of course that is not practically possible.

  2. Alpana said on February 23, 2019 2:03 am:

    Absolutely. No-one is asking us to be present in our best state all the time. Its us who have set up this bar for ourselves. We wear several hats and sometimes, two roles are poles apart that the transition itself is tricky. On top of that I we start raising our expectation bar way to high then it will back fire for sure. As you said, we need to remind ourselves that we are more than just a mom.
    #Momology

    1. Baby & Beyond said on February 27, 2019 5:31 pm:

      Yes probably it is our own expectations set on ourselves. We want to give 100% to every thing we do

  3. anupriya said on February 24, 2019 3:08 pm:

    I was so looking forward to read your post on this prompt. And like always you have outdone yourself. A very fresh take and a daring one. Specially when you say that its ok to not be present all the time.

    1. Baby & Beyond said on February 27, 2019 5:29 pm:

      Thank you!