13 Ways in which Motherhood has Changed Me
October 6, 2017
Raising a Parent
I am part of a blog train of 41 awesome mom bloggers and we are all sharing our thoughts on “How Motherhood has Changed Me”. When I first heard about this, I immediately became nostalgic about my life before Baby N and how much has changed since then. I am a completely different person now and if you could ask the 2-years-ago me, she probably wouldn’t even recognize this new me. The ambitious, go-getter, over-achiever that I was, I would never have believed that one day I would be a part-time work-from-home, cloth diapering, babywearing mom!
Back to basics – carrying my baby in a traditional sling. And yes the messy hair doesn’t bother me anymore
So join me as I reflect on how much has changed in the last 19 months since I became a mother.
How Motherhood has Changed Me:
- My priorities have completely changed. For every decision, big or small, my first thought is about how the outcome will impact my child
- I have finally started respecting my body. It nurtured a child for 9 months and is continuing to nourish him 19 months later…it is nothing short of a miracle
- I have become closer to my mom and sister. I respect and look up to them more as women and mothers
- I have lost touch with people whom I used to ‘hang out’ with all the time and have formed so many more meaningful friendships…many of them online with ladies I have never even met
- I now believe in love at first sight. I now understand the meaning of unconditional love
Unconditional love at first sight
- I have realized that I have more patience, more strength, more stamina and more tolerance than I gave myself credit for
- I value the simple things more – even sitting at home and PJs and watching TV for 30 mins with my husband, binging on junk food, seems like time well spent
A peacefully sleeping baby gives me more pleasure than a night out partying…double the joy if hes snuggled up to me like this!
- I know the lyrics of every nursery rhyme but I no longer recognize any song on any Top 10 chartbusters list
- I am more confident, I trust myself and my instincts much more than I used to
- I have become more productive. Even when I can manage to snatch 5 mins away for myself, I quickly catch up on some emails on my phone or jot down ideas for my next blog post
Shooting some emails while putting baby to sleep and clicking a selfie…no biggie!
- I have become very cautious of how I behave, what I do, what I speak, because I have a little someone looking up to me for guidance and imitating me too
- I am less self conscious…I don’t care if I am having a crazy hair day and walking around in public carrying a screaming toddler, singing rhymes and dancing about to placate him…this is the real me
- I am learning to accept the fact that a piece of my heart is now living outside my body and no matter where I am or what I am doing, a part of my brain will be occupied with thoughts of my child
I am part of this blog train started by Pooja Kawatra of Mums & Babies and she has networked to bring together 41 moms across the GLOBE. (Meet the 41 moms here). Pooja has also shared her own perspective on this here.
I want to thank Veena from The Reading Momster for introducing me and I invite Pranita from Merog and Mom to hop on board the train with me. Pranita is a stay-at-home mommy to 3 year old boy Merog and a Montessori mom who tries to fit fun-learning methods for her child with natural parenting instincts. Being a former Software Engineer by profession and a Fashion Designer by passion, Pranita loves to keep her left and right brains at work 24*7. She always strives to make Merog’s experiences revolve around the philosophy EXPLORE-PLAY- LEARN! I’m looking forward to reading what she has to say about her motherhood journey.
I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge. This post is for the 6th October prompt: “Nostalgia”.
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Motherhood does change one and the best part of it is that you don’t mind the change.
Mahak, can I just copy paste your learnings… I mean it is exactly how and what I think and feel post being a mommy… This just is so relatable, very well put
Thanks Sharvi. So happy to read that new moms are able to relate to this post so much.
What a lovely post! I love how you have really taken stock of your evolution as a mother ❤️
Remembering lyrics of all nursery rhymes and having no clue about the chartbusters is so relatable. My daughter is 8 years old and in all these years i never listened to all English songs, and now my daughter learns them from her friends at school, all chartbusters and I felt I have lost a part of me. So now when she puts on the songs on my phone, we both get crazy and dance away on the beats.
That must be so much fun!
A lovely heartwarming post I too agree with every point of yours on motherhood. Happy to join with you on this blog train.
Loved the post..yes as mommies our brain will always be ‘hooked’ what our kids are upto no matter what!
Yes! Agree with you on all counts! #8 is funny but sooo true!
That’s the essence of being a mom…I have seen my mom changing her priorities for us…It includes a little sacrifice which mom’s do with ease, happily without a second thought!
Yes, after becoming a mom, I too enjoy simple things in life like drinking my cup of coffee, watching 30mins of uninterrupted TV n eating junk food in a corner… Lols!
Xoxo,
Jamie chaw
(http://karmie080808.blogspot.sg)
That’s a lovely post, Mahak. And I so love the pictures of the baby snuggled on you. I can relate to a lot of the points since my wife also went through some of those things when our kids were babies. Not just then, even now she undergoes changes as a mother as the kids grow up practically very fast!
Some really adorable pics and you look like a baby yourself Mahak!! Its awesome to note that you are taking it all so well in your stride and being happy about it all!!! Hugs to your little one!
Haha…Thanks for the compliment I guess!
Motherhood gives birth to mothers too, in a way it’s your reincarnation.
I am sure all mothers would share this. Motherhood is a miracle I feel.
The love at first sight pic is so beautiful, Roo. 🙂 All pics are, but that one in particular. I think that might be the pic that makes you most nostalgic, no?
Honestly I hadn’t looked at those pictures in over a year. It was the “Nostalgia” prompt that made me dig out these treasures!
Love how you beautifully illustrated this. More power!
A truly nostalgic post…every point reminded me of some or the other instance of my life after I became a mom 🙂
So cute. Always, being a mother changes you in so many ways. I could observe that from my mother and sister. 🙂 Adorable post.
What a lovely read it was…”even sitting at home and PJs and watching TV for 30 mins with my husband, binging on junk food, seems like time well spent” thats so me or rather every mom i think….oh that rhyme part is so apt as well..:)
I have seen you post often on the common babywearing networks. It’s amazing to see how motherhood changes us but also helps us evolve into better people.
True Anjana. And you are an inspiration when it comes to babywearing!
Motherhood surely changes the life of the everyone around especially the mother. Just makes me realize how much my mom’s life would have changed years back. WE as kid don’t really realize that until we become one!
I can totally resonate with this article. Instead of humming songs, I hum nursery rhymes. Motherhood is beautiful.
Beautiful post. I am so glad motherhood has taught you to enjoy basic things in life. Such is the power of motherhood!
Totally relatable! i sometimes wonder whats with these little ones, they make us value life more after they are here in this world! Loved the post
So true Udita!
So true I remember the rhymes and go clueless in latest movies and songs and respecting my body and my parents is something motherhood has taught me .. Loved reading it
Wonderful blogpost Mahak. Love how you have so aptly expressed about these changes Motherhood brings in us♥️
I especially love the party where you said you are now closer to mom and sis. They say, “You will never understand until you become a mom yourself” and that’s all truth!
Motherhood is a journey that never forgets or regrets. I like that but yet, for many, I am sure there are regrets too. I’m just glad I had none of those.
I am also on the blog train and will be publishing my post on the 25th of October! Follow me at http://www.instagram.com/mmlittlee and http://www.fb.com/mmlittlee!
I know what you mean about not knowing chartbusters anymore! Gone are the days of blasting Bollywood top ten, at full volume. Loved your babywearing pics.
This is such a relatable post! Every single point took me down the memory lane!
How nice to read the changes you have brought about for good. We have always looked up to our mother for every character we have and I think it is our duty to pass it on to our children. I really love the idea of being cautious of every action and reaction
I agree that as a mother, we become very cautious of how we behave, what we do, what we speak, because someone looking up to us for guidance. Thank you for the great tips. ?